Monday, Jun 28 2010 - Stress Eating after Dinner w/ MIL
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Sunday dinners (a weekly thing) with DH and MIL absolutely make me nuts--the first thing I want to do when I get home is (a) have a BIGGGGG drink and/or (b) eat everything is sight. These outings take at least 2 hours, since I can't escape the immediate stressor by the time I get back home I am totally out of control.
1. MIL doesn't like me much (or at all); to be honest, I don't like her all that much either
2. MIL spends a lot of time praising stepson #2, while criticizing SS #1. As far as I can tell, all SS2 has ever done is throw temper tantrums, swear, spend a lot of time in jail, and suck up to grandma; SS1 is a good grandson (though he doesn't write much), son, and father. There is a problem here.
3. MIL treats DH like dirt, though he is always there for her. I'm jealous of all the time he spends listening to him--much more than he listens to me. I suspect he is trying to get her to love him, but I don't think that's going to happen. She is meaner than a snake and that's no joke.
4. I feel very abandoned at these dinners--no one really talks to me the whole time, I'm just there to give the feeling of family to DH and MIL. I hate it, I hate it, I hate it.
5. Actually, now that I think about it, I feel pretty abandoned all the time. DH loves me, but will go weeks without really talking to me. We don't have the same interests (not that we ever did), but up until the past few years he would listen when I talked--now he literally just goes to sleep.
6. My big "tipple", other than a nice big martini, is cottage cheese and chips. I think that's because that was a favorite food when I was a little girl--when I felt safe and loved and protected--certainly not the case now.
7. I have to be careful showing my feelings around DH because he can be so mean--not for any good reason, but just because it's hurtful. He doesn't do it often, but it is nasty when he gets that way.
What to do about it:
1. Hell, I don't know.
2. Fake it 'til I make it.
3. Refuse to go on these outings.
4. Talk to DH about my feelings