Will is counting objects very consistently/solidly up to about 6. Sometimes he will do it correctly to 10, but not always. He is initiating counting now, rather than only doing when prompted.
Is developing fears – specifically, fears of being afraid: scary movies, locked doors. He says, “I’m thinking about the scary movie.” He is in some distress when he says these types of things, so a long conversation ensues to try to help him reframe his thoughts. Then he says, “Why do movies scare us?”
Although he often doesn’t want to share toys/objects with Ellen, he is almost reflexive now is giving her a blanket if he is picking up his own, or handing her a mini drawing board when he is using his big one.
He is really enjoying his drawing board lately. Makes very solid attempts to write “W”s and “E”s. Enjoys making patterns.
Ellen is trying to say “num-nums” for food. She is now standing/balancing for a few seconds at a time without holding on to anything. She pats Will when he is crying. She has starting hitting when frustrated. She loves putting objects in to containers, and taking them out. She switches objects from hand to hand when being dressed. She tries to build with Lego’s.
She and Will play kissing games, where they each kiss the other one. Then it turns into licking, which is very funny to watch since they collapse into giggles.
Had a good long talk with S on Monday night. Very honest, and I was impressed with the respect and insight he demonstrated relative to my concerns. My assumptions-calibrator has been reset, which is always key to harmony between us, but I was also very clear in voicing my concerns. As I said to him, “Sometimes its good to give each other a cooling off period, but sometimes that means that things that NEED to be said, don’t get said.” So I made sure to say them. I don’t want to go into it too much since I need to respect his privacy, but I thought it was pretty prescient of him to urge me to connect more with girlfriends, and not to worry about him being with the kids “too” much. “Ladies need to talk,” is the diplomatic way he put it. Subtext being “This is a need I can’t necessary fill for you”. It was endearing.
My hair and nails still suck.
Oh, and if ANYONE has any helpful information to share on sore perineums, it would be appreciated. The internet seems full of women who have various levels of discomfort in that area, and NOT from childbirth, and few have found any thing or any one to help. The one woman who said her gyno finally diagnosed a bacterial infection after multiple surgerys never shared what the name of the infection was or what antibiotic she was prescribed. I'm going to see my gyno in a few weeks, but she couldn't help last time, so I was hoping for more info to take with me.