Friday, Mar 6 2009
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Update on the house drama: After verbally renegging on their verbal acceptance of our offer, the bank/investor was sent a market analysis by the selling agent, trying to make them/him realize you can't reject a decent offer in this real estate market. Which you would think a financial entity would know, but apparently not. The bank/investor sent out for a new appraisal, which came in AT our offer level. So - here's hoping one more time that they see sense. We really want this house. But we can't offer more for it than we already have. Sit and wait. Like we have been for months, now. I try to keep at the top of my mind that we are fortunate to be in a position to make an offer on a house, and if this doesn't work out, we will find something else. Still, the waiting is hard.
Sometimes I'm reminded of how fortunate I am in Steve. Last night I went to my MOPS group. The majority of the moms there are SAH, and their hubbies work. I'm amazed that a grown woman has to tell a grown man that he needs to a) feed their child when she isn't there, and b) order him NOT to get on computer or read a book until after the baby is asleep b/c he should spend 2 out of 24 hours focusing on his child/children. If I had tell Steve that I wouldn't feel like I had a partnership or a marriage. I would feel like I had another child, which is hardly romantic much less sustainable.
Its not that I'm judging these women for having less than involved husbands/fathers (how unfair that would be), it just makes me confused about how a parent could be so out of touch, and sad for the moms who have to spend their days not just taking of/teaching their children about life, but taking care of/teaching their husbands about life and responsibility. I would feel so alone if that were my situation. In charge, yes, which is something I have to give up to some degree, in my situation, but so alone.
I'd like to think that if that were my sitatuion, and my partner was less than present as a parent, I would try to leave him alone with the child/ren regularly, for longer than a few hours. In learning to parent, I think being FORCED by a situation to deal with the needs of a child by yourself is the fastest way to taking charge and owning a responsiblity. This, of course, assumes you feel safe leaving your child. Not comfortable, maybe, but safe.
Was it Staci
that said pregnancy should be by application only? That contraception should be in the water, and you should have to jump through major hoops to get the antidote?