Friday, Oct 30 2009
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I am having a really hard morning.
When I dropped Will off today he cried and tried to run away from me (ie away from the door). It was so frustrating and discouraging.
I called the school just now to see if he had calmed down. I spoke live with the teacher, and she said he stops crying on a dime, but that for the past week or so he has been refusing to do his some of his work. She said that they let him choose some of his work and they choose some work for him, but that he at times refused to complete either kind. She said he is bright and he really is engaged sometimes.
She said she thinks it is a power struggle of sorts - that he is trying to see what he can get away with. Which mirrors our challenges with Will at home. She said she thinks at heart he really enjoys school but that she hasnít seen this type of crying and power-struggling go on for this long after the start of the school year.
I am so worried about him. I have been for a while. I thought that 3.5 and 4 would be such great/fun times for him, but they really havenít been. The struggle with potty training was horrible and school has been a source of great anxiety and lots of tears for him (at least while he is at home).
I took him to see a Bert and Ernie play at the Childrenís Theater and he was DISTRAUGHT while we were sitting in the audience. We finally had to go to the quiet room where he could see the plan but not be part of the crowd. I took treats into school for his birthday yesterday and all it did was make him upset and worried about not having enough cookies at home. I am in despair that Will is VERY shut off to new experiences. The teacher said heíll even choose the same chair to sit in for every activity.
I donít know what to do. And I feel certain somehow that this is ALL MY FAULT.
And after yesterdayís comment that Steve and I have been very tender with each other lately, we had a spat last night and again this morning that is leaving me feeling unappreciated and disrespected, and without my best friend.
I think my biggest concern with regard to Will is that I canít tell the difference with him between TRUE distress/anxiety and displays of distress/anxiety that are designed to ensure he doesnít have to do something he doesnít want to do. This makes it very difficult to know when to enforce expectations of certain behaviors and when to back off and provide relief/comfort. I donít want to break his little spirit, but I also donít want him to not be curious and engaged and interested in new things and ideas and experiences.