I always think how great it would be to join these groups and find real support. At the same time I always feel like I'm invading a group that already has connections. So I'm going to try anyway. I am about to turn 27, I want to start a family, but I won't do so until I lose at least 100 pounds. At the same time, I can't seem to stay motivated. I don't know why. Before my wedding I was able to stay focused enough to lose over 40 pounds. I feel trapped.