things that are BETTER!

TMOORE1 - 10:54AM PDT, Mar 20th 2012

tmoore1

As we lose weight & get healthier *please note the positive phrasing: WHEN not if!* we're all going to notice little day-to-day things that are different and better.

I propose this thread as a place we can celebrate these victories, especially ones that might not even occur to people who don't have so much to lose.

We all need pats on the back now and again. Let's make this a place to stand up and say: Look - I can do this, yippee!

I'll go first to demonstrate what I mean.


TMOORE1 - 11:03AM PDT, Mar 20th 2012

tmoore1

Get the drum rolls ready...

I can stand up from chairs without using my arms.

...Now I crawl back into scared ashamed zone, a bit.... Do people who are not overweight take this for granted? I think everybody here knows what I mean. When I was heavier, to get up out of a chair, I had to push up with both arms. And sometimes do that rocking back & forth thing, to get up momentum. And heaven forbid I get into a too-soft chair that I can't get out of. Talk about embarrassing...

My trainer has me doing _lots_ of leg exercises. Squats, lunges, leg presses, etc. Those leg muscles are big and burn lots of calories. Consequently, even though I'm still many pounds overweight, I can get up on leg power alone. "Look ma, no hands!"

This little thing still suprises me, every day. I guess I'm just not used to the way my body is now.

Toni

HW390 CW244 GW180


DEEANN - 11:24AM PDT, Mar 20th 2012

deeann
Illinois

Toni, You're doing great! Keep up the good work.

I remember all too well where you're at right now. I can remember that when I lost weight, I could get up unassisted, put a shoe, sock (or whatever) on without having to stabliize myself holding onto something. And could climb a flight of stairs without getting winded. And yes, people who have never had difficulty in these areas DO take it all for granted. It's kind of like not knowing how good it feels to not hurt until you've had a booger of a headache and it's finally stopped hurting.

Dee

HW 320 :bang:
SW 298 Joined 4/8/05
Lowest 163.3 (10/7/06) :rock1:
GW 161

March start = 258.8 :rolling1:

Current Pic=Vicki(LUCKDUCK2) & me during a visit summer 2006.


TMOORE1 - 6:36PM PDT, Mar 20th 2012

tmoore1

Oh yeah! Dee, now that you mentioned it stairs are another biggie. I used to dread stairs with a passion. I'd have to get a death grip on the rail and haul myself up. Torture. Going down was even worse. I have an old foot injury plus down is tricky on the knees. So I'd go down on step at a time, putting both feet on every step. Down, down, step. Down, down, step.

Now, I still walk down steps slowly, but I can alternate feet. And I can go up without holding on. For me, it's trotting up those steps.

For those of you who are not there yet, it's something you can look forward to. Just walking up stairs will make you grin!

Toni

HW390 CW244 GW180


DEEANN - 4:13PM PDT, Mar 21st 2012

deeann
Illinois

WooHoo! It's things like that that help fuel motivation to keep going. :rock1:

Dee

HW 320 :bang:
SW 298 Joined 4/8/05
Lowest 163.3 (10/7/06) :rock1:
GW 161

March start = 258.8 :rolling1:

Current Pic=Vicki(LUCKDUCK2) & me during a visit summer 2006.


TMOORE1 - 3:49AM PDT, Mar 23rd 2012

tmoore1

Dee - I think so too. I believe people often get too fixated on the scale numbers, or on what dress size they want to be in, or in trying to lose before some special occasion.

The real payback to me is in day-to-day, ordinary differences. These successes we get to experience every day, not just at weigh-in day or at the big reunion(or whatever). How is losing weight making our lives better EVERY day, all the time?

Here's another one: I can (almost) sit down in any chair in a room. I can't be the only one for whom this used to be a problem, right? I *remember* the feeling of walking into a new place, and having to scan the chairs: Is there any of these I can sit in? Arms are too narrow, my big rear will never fit in. That one looks too soft; I'll never get up. No way that one is sturdy enough. And so on.

On some occasions, I just stood (on always aching feet) the entire time, rather than risk sitting down. Do non-obese people ever even have to think about this?

I'm still pretty big, so I still worry about the sturdiness factor. But mostly, I can sit down in all kinds of chairs now! Whooppee!! I can even fit in student desks - those ones with the fixed desktop attached. I hadn't been able to sit in those for decades!

Fixating on "big events" sets people up for failure. If you don't lose XX pounds by YY date, you failed. No. I think we need to change that mindset. If something is easier or better for you, that alone is a victory. And as you lose weight, you'll regain more and more of that daily functionality. Let's build on victory after victory.

Toni

HW390 CW244 GW180


DEEANN - 10:29AM PDT, Mar 23rd 2012

deeann
Illinois

Oh, you are so right. When I had lost enough weight to be able to sit where I wanted, It felt awesome! Especially in movie theaters. But I was in one a coupe weeks ago and was sad to find out I'm having to squeeze in again. :-( Oh well.

Keep up the good work.

I have GOT to find some motivation AND hang onto it long enough to make a difference. Ugh!

Dee

HW 320 :bang:
SW 298 Joined 4/8/05
Lowest 163.3 (10/7/06) :rock1:
GW 161

March start = 258.8 :rolling1:

Current Pic=Vicki(LUCKDUCK2) & me during a visit summer 2006.


TMOORE1 - 4:48PM PDT, Mar 28th 2012

tmoore1

Something Leslie said in another thread made me want to post something else here. Let's use this thread to NOTICE when something is BETTER because of our getting healthier.

Leslie talked about mobility and agility...

Getting in & out of the car!!! That is SO MUCH easier for me now.

At my biggest, it hurt to just get in and out. I couldn't reach the buttons on the console (stereo, AC) any more. And don't even get me going about seat belt struggles.

Now <grin>, not only can I get in and out (see post above out standing up with no hands), the steering wheel doesn't rub my belly. Hah! It's been years since I had space between me and the wheel.

These little things are worth it. We can all get there, I know it.

Toni
HW390 CW244 GW180


COOKIEMONSTER - 7:53PM PDT, Mar 28th 2012

cookiemonster
SW Arizona

I love this thread, Toni. I think it's important to count all the achievements we have along the way. A few weeks ago, I bumped into a friend in the grocery store who I used to walk with for exercise. I haven't seen her in a couple of years. We decided to meet each other over the weekend to walk the track at our local park. At the end of the walk, my friend said that the first thing she noticed was that I'm not sweating like I used to. With the cooler weather, I hadn't noticed this improvement. I used to sweat all the time, all year long. I would break out into a sweat just sitting down and was hot all the time. Since I've lowered my blood sugar levels all this has stopped. It feels like my internal thermostat has started working correctly again. It's such a blessing.

Elizabeth


NMENDICOTT - 10:19AM PDT, Mar 29th 2012

nmendicott
Columbus, Ohio

Elizabeth, I totally get the thermostat thing. I was so used to being hot all the time and then as the weight came off something odd happened.... I am always cold now. Even in the summer the heat, which used to really keep me inside all the time, doesn't bother me. I am never hot anymore.

Nicole
HW - 298 (2009)
2012 Starting weight - 256 , Jan - 246 (- 10), Feb - 238 (-8)
Current weight - 231


JPSKITTS - 8:17AM PDT, Mar 30th 2012

jpskitts
Dallas, NC

I just want ya'll to know how encouraging the posts have been and how thankful I am that you are sharing your stories. It's made a huge difference in my week and in the rest of my life!!

Toni - the stairs and chairs are real monsters...I'm always sizing things up (no pun intended) for sturdiness and "can I get out of it, if I sit in it?"

Right now, I'm focused on improving my mobility. I hate to admit that at age 36 it takes longer for me to get out of a chair and start into a walk than it does for either of my 60 year old parents. I literally have to do the "stage" method.

First stage...get up (using the rocking motion)
Second stage...stand still and let everything line back up, especially my lower back.
Third stage...the first step, which is slow so that the plantar fasciitis in my left foot
doesn't protest and my right knee doesn't give out.

It's like starting a car on a really cold morning. The engine has to warm up, the windows defrost, and the heater takes forever to finally let loose with the warm air. Being able to get up and go is my first target …and I don’t even remember loosing that ability in the first place. I’ve even asked myself, “When did I start moving like the elderly?” I’m not going to continue beating myself up over it, but use it as Dee suggested to remind myself what it was like living without that which I lost…I miss the gift of moving gracefully and will not take it for granted when I get it back!

I'll have to keep an eye on the change in sweating and my internal thermometer...but what I know will change for the better is the severe windedness I feel in my regular day to day activity. I can't even walk a short distance without a heavy change in my breathing. I don't even try the walk and talk...

Shopping in a "normal" size clothing store again is another thing that will be better for me. I just hope my feet slim down too…

~Leslie Fay
HW:385
CW:375
GW:200


TMOORE1 - 10:33AM PDT, Mar 30th 2012

tmoore1

Leslie, I'm sending you digital <hugs>. You hang in there, it will get better. All that stuff went away *poof* when I dropped major pounds. I still notice the difference (that's why I started this thread)... it's like I'm not used to my own (this new version) body yet.

YES, your feet do slim down! That reminds me of a funny. I have a foot injury, so I wear nothing but expensive sneakers (seriously, all the time. no girlie shoes for me). For years I've gone to the local New Balance store, said, give me another one of these (pointing to my feet) and try not to choke at the price. They last me six months or so, and I have several pair I rotate, so it's probably a year between shopping trips.

So, last time I went in, I said, "these again please" the clerk asked me what size. I had no idea (it'd been a year...) and so they take 'em off to measure. Turns out I had been wearing a double-whatever wide, but the clerk was all puzzled. Those weren't even close to fitting me anymore. She figured I'd been badly mis-fit. No, just turns out my feet had gotten skinner, too. Whoo-hoo. I hadn't noticed it, because you know how you get used to your favorite pair of sloppy shoes. I'm down to a normal width now.

So look forward to those new shoes!

Toni

HW390 CW244 GW180


COOKIEMONSTER - 3:27PM PDT, Mar 30th 2012

cookiemonster
SW Arizona

Leslie- I totally agree with you. This forum has really been helpful. It's nice to know that there are people who can relate to your experiences.

Toni- I can't wait for my feet to shrink! Do you know how hard it is to find a 12W? They never make the cute shoes in the bigger sizes. Apparently, women with larger feet don't need them. Seriously, I don't know how much my feet would actually shrink, but it's nice to dream.


DEEANN - 5:51PM PDT, Mar 30th 2012

deeann
Illinois

I agree with everyone… great forum.

I just remembered another thing that was great when I had lost the weight. I remember showing up at the DMV to renew my license and I think my DL said something like 265 lbs (which was a lie on the light side when I actually got that license), and the clerk looked at it and at me and said something like, “Well, I guess this weight isn’t right anymore. What is it now?” I was at 195. :rock1: And I guess I’d better get busy if I don’t want to return and have to have her ask me that question in reverse, lol:blush4:

Well, I got my first green check of the week today, Ugh! BUT I can say that since Tuesday, each day has gotten better and better … and FINALLY, WhooHoo! A green check. Now isn’t that pathetic? LOL I’ll take pathetic, as long as I’m making progress. :laugh5:


Dee

HW 320 :bang:
SW 298 Joined 4/8/05
Lowest 163.3 (10/7/06) :rock1:
GW 161

March start = 258.8 :rolling1:

Current Pic=Vicki(LUCKDUCK2) & me during a visit summer 2006.


TMOORE1 - 7:28PM PDT, Mar 30th 2012

tmoore1

Nope, sorry. Dee your green check is NOT "pathetic". Anything can be spun in either a positive or negative light. Why not focus on the positive???

You're logging regularly again! Your eating is getting better and better! That's genuine progress, worthy of celebration. no self put-down needed. :-)

Toni

HW390 CW244 GW180


TMOORE1 - 7:28PM PDT, Mar 30th 2012

tmoore1

does anybody know how to delete a post? the one I just made is showing up twice. ??
I'm using edit to replace it with this message but I'd prefer to just delete the duplicate.

Last Edited: 7:31pm PDT, March 30th 2012

COOKIEMONSTER - 9:09PM PDT, Mar 30th 2012

cookiemonster
SW Arizona

Dee- I agree with Toni. A green check show great progress. You're well on your way to great success.


DEEANN - 5:50PM PDT, Mar 31st 2012

deeann
Illinois

Thanks. I would have gotten a green check today, but DH took me to DQ because of their BOGO Blizzards and today being the last day, but I'm not over as much as I thought I might be. Still doing better than before; at least I FEEL more in control. :clown1:

Dee

HW 320 :bang:
SW 298 Joined 4/8/05
Lowest 163.3 (10/7/06) :rock1:
GW 161

March start = 258.8 :rolling1:

Current Pic=Vicki(LUCKDUCK2) & me during a visit summer 2006.


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