Omigosh i too belong here! I have been on ck for awhile did the whole good eating and was so bummed that i lost a whole 2 pounds in one month (1/2 pound a week) i just caved in. I went to lifetime fitness and had a RMR and v02max done. WOW what an eye opener. I found out at what point i burned "fat" calories - i wear my s200 polar hrm now all the time and i can see how many calories i burn lifting and exercising. My rmr shows me burning 1133 cals a day - to maintain i need 1574 so my trainer adived that i cut back 250 calories a day (so i should log 1374) and exercise for the other half to lose 1 pound a week (thas 17500 divided either by 5/6 days). I finally realized that a pound a week may be all i can do, however keeping track of my calories has been a revelation - seems i am eating about 1800 a day - so pretty much negating my 500 burn a day *sigh*. i am finally "over" the fact that i cant eat the way most people do. That was an epihany - i was sabatoging myself because i was acting like a kid who is denied something, i was really ANGRY that i couldnt eat a wendys #2 combo (1340 calories btw)...and then i thought to myself - i dont even LIKE wendy's food, it makes me feel ill...so instead of telling myself i CANT have something, i have been practicing saying to myself - "self, will your body like it or do you want to feel yucky all day".....but i need help from you guys here in ck. i need a buddy or something, someone who is struggling like me to share those frustrating moments and those days of triumphs...i have never reached out for help like this before but i know i need someone who understands - i will succeed this time by changing my outlook on food - its energy for my body, its not a drug for my feelings