Thanksgiving is a double edged sword, not just dealing with food but dealing with difficult family member. Being forced to draw the line in the sand is hard. I have a very verbally and physically abusive family member who has substance issues. I had thought he would be here and dreaded the outcome as in past years he has made life unpleasant. Yet after a number of his FaceBook text lashings I decided to tell him such actions and words were unkind and not very adult. So the problem was solved and he is now blocked from my FB and phone. I just finely stood up to him and that is all it took. I have been fearful in the past not wanting to make matters worse or have him drink or use drugs because I made him mad or unhappy. Yet our granddaughter now lives here, she is a real joy and only 14 and already had serious problems with him and his actions. He is now her ex-stepfather. I feel our home will be much happier now and we all can enjoy our time. I have done the right thing yet do love him but dislike what he is doing and his words are so unkind. I wish he would just get help and heal and stop blaming everyone for his problems, he is so angry and rages on for hours. I have felt bullied for years and fearful of violent acts, but no more as I am changing my life now and getting back my strength on all levels.