Well Thank you all for your information. I will be able to get through this with him, I love him to much not to. He seems to be making small changes to show he understands what he has put us through the last few weeks. We have decided to sell our house, move in with my mother for a few months to save some money then rent for a year. I have also gotten a job. It seems that in time everything works it self out. I will be getting 3x more a month than the other job offer I had. we will be starting over with our lives but one thing will be the same. Our family. A big beautiful home does not make us a loving family. I would rather know I can send my children to collage than look like we have lots of money but be strapped by monthlys. I'm excited...there is only brightness in our future.