Prince Charming and I have decided to separate. On Mother's Day we had decided to divorce but then he changed his mind when we took him off the joint accounts on Monday and filled out the divorce paperwork. Then I decided that I can't live like this, and he agreed, so we are going to separate and see how we feel once we are apart. I feel relieved about it all. He's going to Florida on the 28th. I don't think I want him back, but getting us apart will cement that.

He suggested counseling. While I am not completely closed off to the idea, I have been to counseling before (thought I needed it after going to ALANON many many moons ago) and found it completely useless. My problem is that I do not trust him to actually stay and I don't want to invest any more of myself in our relationship if he's not staying. Don't know how a counselor can help that. He's wanted to leave many times over the last few months and decided to stay each time. I'm over it and I'm ready to move on with my life. I don't need him and I don't even want him right now. The good thing is that there is no animosity. We're dealing with it like two level-headed, mature adults. Imagine that.