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Thursday, Jul 2 2009 - Fat sister
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Over the years, I have become the Fat Sister. After living in Kansas City for a long time, and having a baby with my husband down there, when I moved back to my hometown, I started to gain weight, and lots of it. In high school, I weighed about 105 and so did she, but she was in middle school. See, she's 6 years younger. She's a size 2 (was a size 0 after having two kids), but I am healthier. She has respiratory problems and celiac. I am conquering my respiratory problems through increased exercise, and I only have a sensitivity to a lot of the foods that make her ill.
But ever since she moved back from Vegas and I moved back from Kansas City, I've felt like I'm in a competition with her. See, she's nice and sweet --a massage therapist and mom, and I'm opinionated and an analyzer. (I should have been an attorney many tell me). She's in a sorority; I'm still not sure what one is. All I remember is that I didn't want to do crazy stuff in order to associate with certain people in college.
She's about to have her 4th child, and I can't even get pregnant with a 2nd one, and she's still a 2/4, and I'm struggling to fit into those 4s. I'm trying to fight a stigma that I'm no longer the fat sister, that I can be just as nice, and that I can conquer any impression someone has about me if its negative.
People don't recognize me at the pool. I'm hosting our class reunion in a month, and I just want people to be kind. I DO know how to throw a good event. I DO not want to be the fat sister anymore.
Is it wrong for me to wish upon a star that I weigh less than my sister --at least while she's pregnant. There are sometimes so many irons in the fire and ghosts in the closet. We need to continually work on our emotional issues as well as our weight and our fitness level, or when you least expect it, you'll have a binge and fall off the wagon. This weekend, I'm taking chicken salad to my 4th party. I know I can eat it.
Have a blessed weekend all. My goal for the weekend is to get on my mt. bike and ride for at least an hour.
Don't forget to log everything.
Elly Sue
But ever since she moved back from Vegas and I moved back from Kansas City, I've felt like I'm in a competition with her. See, she's nice and sweet --a massage therapist and mom, and I'm opinionated and an analyzer. (I should have been an attorney many tell me). She's in a sorority; I'm still not sure what one is. All I remember is that I didn't want to do crazy stuff in order to associate with certain people in college.
She's about to have her 4th child, and I can't even get pregnant with a 2nd one, and she's still a 2/4, and I'm struggling to fit into those 4s. I'm trying to fight a stigma that I'm no longer the fat sister, that I can be just as nice, and that I can conquer any impression someone has about me if its negative.
People don't recognize me at the pool. I'm hosting our class reunion in a month, and I just want people to be kind. I DO know how to throw a good event. I DO not want to be the fat sister anymore.
Is it wrong for me to wish upon a star that I weigh less than my sister --at least while she's pregnant. There are sometimes so many irons in the fire and ghosts in the closet. We need to continually work on our emotional issues as well as our weight and our fitness level, or when you least expect it, you'll have a binge and fall off the wagon. This weekend, I'm taking chicken salad to my 4th party. I know I can eat it.
Have a blessed weekend all. My goal for the weekend is to get on my mt. bike and ride for at least an hour.
Don't forget to log everything.
Elly Sue
4 comments so far.
4.
a decade ago
I have always been the fat sister. My sister at her absolute heaviest is 5'8" and 160lbs and that is not trying at all. I work EXTREMELY hard (both food and exercise) and I am 5'6" and 160lbs. Although today I am in much better shape then my sister. There is a way to have a healthy level of competetion between sisters but you both have to equally play the game. When we were younger and my sister had zero weight issues, a big motivator for me was to be smaller then my sister but I would have never said anything. At that time my sister did not get it - her thinking was I should just quit eating. I promise you that age catches up with everyone. So now my sister has gained weight over the years (and definitely gotten flabbier) and she realizes how hard it really is and she appreciates how hard I work at it. So now it is a fun game. My sister is happy for me when I weigh less then her but it drives her crazy as well because it highlights for her that fact that she has gained. For me - I love driving my sister crazy. I love that she finally gets it (a little sweet revenge).
by LORILOVE
3.
a decade ago
I am opinionated and analyze things to death...I think like you do about how do I become sweet and nice....but it isn't my personality. I am a realist. I think we all have different paths in life and if we were all the same physically, emotionally or spiritually what a boring world this would be. Embrace yourself for being who you are and love her for having "some" of the qualities you want and can work on having. I have always been the fat sister, and I am the younger one. Now I weigh about 25 lbs less than my sister, and guess what? I still feel like the fat sister. I think it is a mindset more than a body set.
by MAMA
2.
a decade ago
i think it's only natural to have these kinds of feelings towards a sibling. been there. you're not fat, sister, and i'm sure you'll throw a heck of an event
:)
by NEIMANMARXIST
1.
a decade ago
Elly Sue -
I know what you mean about being the fat sister. I have three sisters - all thin. I have avoided going to some family events because we sometimes plan them around 5k races - which my sisters always participate in - and obviously - I can not.
It is not wrong for you to wish that you weigh less than your sister - but what is more important is how do you feel? You said that you are healthier - that is awesome. Also, if you are trying to have another baby - I think it is important to be aware that you have the right nutrition going into the pregnancy. AND - you look great!
Enjoy your class reunion....what people remember most is how you make them feel - not what you look like when you are doing it. I hosted my class reunion a few years ago (went to a small Catholic Highschool in Gilbertville Iowa) - and had a great time! Most poeple matured - and changed in that time - and the one's that didn't - yuck...didn't want to spend any time around them.
Have a great weekend!
by ABLASER