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Saturday, May 2 2009 - Four and a half months to live.

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Smokers are playing Russian Roulette with each cigarette they light up. My sister-in-law has been diagnosed with cancer of the appendix, a silent, rare, yet deadly cancer. Cancer does not run in her family. No one else in her family smokes. I know there are people who have smoked all their lives and lived into their eighties. I realize that cancer has no prejudice and strikes those who don't smoke; but surely, with all the scientific evidence available, any smoker would know that lighting up makes them an easy target.

Within 24 hours the doctors removed her appendix. Her ovaries. The lining of her gut. Half of her intestines and whatever else they could scrape up. Small tumors linger, embedded into her remaining organs and tissue. Since they have removed every organ that could possible be removed and then some, they can't dig anymore out of her without killing her on the surgery table. They're hoping chemotherapy will kill the remaining tumors.

I've never been close to my sister-in-law; therefore, I'm spared the physical and emotional pain of losing a loved one. However, her children, a boy 15 and a girl 13, are not. My brother is in agony. The future of their family and her parental family have been turned upside down and spat upon by an unforgiving and deadly disease. While I might not have loved her like a sister, I very much love the ones who love her. I will feel their pain; and I will be helpless to shelter them from the grief. She is a wonderful, talented and vivacious person. She is very much loved by her friends and family. The impact of her imminent death will be devastating.

I sure hope that cigarette was worth it.

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4 comments so far.

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a decade ago

So sorry to hear about your loss - even when you aren't close, it's hard to lose someone to something so preventable. My father died of lung cancer from smoking nearly 30 years ago and they understood the dangers then.

Major hugs from all of us here.

by HAVOCSMOM

HAVOCSMOM

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a decade ago

Susan, :kiss:
Life is, and then it ends, and we always wish for some different outcome, at least less suffering. :kiss:

by ANNAE

ANNAE

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a decade ago

Susan- I am sorry for your family. I have loved ones who smoke and who have close family members that smoke. We feel awful everytime they light up, but nagging does nothing. Living a healthy life and trying to be the best example for her children is all I know how to do. Lisa

by LISA97

LISA97

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a decade ago

so sorry, I have a similar story. MY mom died at 52 from lung cancer. They were going to remove a lung. when they opened her up they could see that the cancer was in her heart and both lungs. The surgeons just sewed her back up. She died soon afterwards. I didn't really know my mom by then and when I went to see her was amazed at how shriveled up the cancer had made her. She looked at least 90 years old. I hope the kids and your brother will come out of this well.

by RICK6003

RICK6003