MOUGHI's CalorieKing blog
Sunday, Feb 10 2008 - Setting Goals
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My husband and I were talking this morning about setting goals and rewards for losing weight. I told him I didn't have a material goal like wanted clothes, going on a trip, or doing something special every time I lost so much weight. I honestly couldn't think of anything I wanted to set up th help motivate me to lose weight. I then went on to tell him I just wanted to feel better, maybe get off some medication I'm on, and have the kids be proud of me ( and him ). Then he pointed out those were goals, not material goals, but still goals. I want to feel better. I want the weight off my weak back, all 120 pounds off it. IS that good enough? I want less pain even though I know I won't be pain free, but this has to help. So , this journey to me means , "life". A life of health, feeling better about oneself both physically and emotionally. Now for my greatest fear, not being able to maintain or get to goal weight.
Yes, that's my fear all right. I did that once after my kids were born and as you see I didn't maintain. I have a ways before this is even an issue, but it is in the back of my mind even now. I didn't stay with Weight Watchers way back then to learn how to maintain nor did I keep up proper eating habits. Will this time be different? Does every dieter go through these thoughts? Today I'm older, wiser, and have more knowledge on my side. I also have a lot more motivation. Then there's the fact I am enjoying eating better than I did back then. Good food appeals to my husband and I now. We really like eating healthy now. So, my prayer is I will be able to maintain with the support of my family, friends, and doctors. Still, I do have fears that linger in my mind once in a while.
On a lighter note, I was preparing for an afternoon walk outside. I reached for an old baseball cap, the one with my penguins on it and tried it on. It didn't fit my head, too big, needed adjusting. So I mumbled to myself," I'm losing it in my head", not realizing what I had just said my husband started to laugh until his cough came back. I innocently asked him what was so funny until he pointed out what a comment I had just made and what it sounded like!
I have often been accused by my family as being a little empty headed at times. Well now there is less of it to be empty.
Yes, that's my fear all right. I did that once after my kids were born and as you see I didn't maintain. I have a ways before this is even an issue, but it is in the back of my mind even now. I didn't stay with Weight Watchers way back then to learn how to maintain nor did I keep up proper eating habits. Will this time be different? Does every dieter go through these thoughts? Today I'm older, wiser, and have more knowledge on my side. I also have a lot more motivation. Then there's the fact I am enjoying eating better than I did back then. Good food appeals to my husband and I now. We really like eating healthy now. So, my prayer is I will be able to maintain with the support of my family, friends, and doctors. Still, I do have fears that linger in my mind once in a while.
On a lighter note, I was preparing for an afternoon walk outside. I reached for an old baseball cap, the one with my penguins on it and tried it on. It didn't fit my head, too big, needed adjusting. So I mumbled to myself," I'm losing it in my head", not realizing what I had just said my husband started to laugh until his cough came back. I innocently asked him what was so funny until he pointed out what a comment I had just made and what it sounded like!
I have often been accused by my family as being a little empty headed at times. Well now there is less of it to be empty.
13 comments so far.
13.
a decade ago
Lory- Thanks for stopping by my blog. Yes, I do love my jeep. It was a graduation present to myself five years ago. My husband likes to drive it often too. Your laser sounds amazing. Thanks for the compliments about my workouts. I actually have thought about becomming a PT because I love teaching people (and learning from experiences), however, because I'm a full-time teacher I have very little free time. Plus, in my free time I like to spend time with my hubby (sometimes I act as his personal trainer...although he probably wish I'd rather not...he says something about me being "Drill Sergeantlike"
;) 
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:love: my free time in the summer. 
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I've even thought about training during my summer since I'm off...but I really
I think your rewards that you mention in your blog are excellent rewards. Afterall, it is a lifestyle change...a healthy life is a gift all in itself.
I can't speak for anyone but myself and I know that I have the same fears of not being able to maintain or reach my goal weight. It has only been until recently that I've been able to push those thoughts out of my head & say, "what can I do just for today to make sure that I am successful in keeping myself healthy?" (for me this could be making sure I get at least a 30 min. workout in, or making a choice to have an extra serving of fruits or veggies). Try to focus on the moment and not worry about tomorrow.
I can tell you, I have to keep reminding myself this every day. It's really hard but in the end it really makes me feel empowered.
Continue doing what your doing...I think you are doing an amazing job.
by KILA
12.
a decade ago
by BUN201
11.
a decade ago
You sound great - I have no doubt you'll be a maintaining, weight-loss, fulltime success!
by LAURAGLAURA
10.
a decade ago
Your goals sound wonderful to me, very good reasons to strive to be healthier.
:thumbu2: A HRM is a Heart Rate Monitor... You input your age, weight, and gender and it will monitor your heart rate and calories burned during exercise. It consists of a chest strap that senses and transmits your heart rate and a wrist strap (like a watch) that receives and displays the information. There are many brands and levels of HRM available, but you want one with a chest strap to get an accurate reading from it. I got mine on e-bay, but they should be available at any decent sporting goods store.
by DRAGONFLYGIRL
9.
a decade ago
Your goals sound wonderful to me, very good reasons to strive to be healthier.
:thumbu2: A HRM is a Heart Rate Monitor... You input your age, weight, and gender and it will monitor your heart rate and calories burned during exercise. It consists of a chest strap that senses and transmits your heart rate and a wrist strap (like a watch) that receives and displays the information. There are many brands and levels of HRM available, but you want one with a chest strap to get an accurate reading from it. I got mine on e-bay, but they should be available at any decent sporting goods store.
by DRAGONFLYGIRL
8.
a decade ago
I gained and lost and gained too, but for the past 4 years, I have kept it off. If I can do it, you can too! Thanks so much for the advice about the benedryl for mast tumors.
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by SJ1320
7.
a decade ago
Sometimes the ideas for rewards come to you later. That's what's happening with me. My only goal at the beginning was just to lose ten pounds. But I'm feeling better and getting inspired. I see that you've lost 13 pounds, do you feel better? Maybe you might get a HRM for your walking. That's what I'm considering for a reward after reading some blogs. Apparently, it will calc your cals for you more accurately. Take care!
by SGISSY
6.
a decade ago
Hi Lory!
I have a hard time with goal setting and rewards too - I can never think of something I really would like - the only thing I want is to get this weight off!!!! HOWEVER - my latest scheme seems to be working - not particularly motivating, but at least it's a little practical...
For every pound I lose, I toss between 5 and 10 bucks in a jar - less if it's been a tight month, but always SOMETHING in the "wardrobe" fund for when I have no clothes that fit!
(Hey, maybe you'll need a new hat soon!!!!)
by LIZZIEM
5.
a decade ago
Lory - I am like you, I have never wanted a material reward. The reward of good health and feeling good in my own skin is more than enough for me. I am also a previous loser that regained and I hate it when people comment about keeping this off for life. That thought in itself stresses me out. Once thing I have figured out is that I am good at losing and bad at worklife balance. I regained when I got sucked into a disfunctional company and job. My journey's at CK have taught me how to eat and exercise but they still have ot taught me to walk away from a bad situation. I hope now that I am older and wiser that I will be able to do that myself. Hopefully I will never be tested again that way but for now I can't worry about it.
by LORILOVE
4.
a decade ago
Well, I think my problem is because of the meds I stopped taking. I tend to get a little gassy every now and then from eating fruits and vegetables. Nothing serious, but yesterday was no different from any other day or so I thought. I am told that the effects of the fruits and veggies wear off after a while. So it's not because of the fruits and veggies per say, but I think it was because of the steroids I am no longer taking. I have noticed little differences since I quit taking it so.....
:wave1: Have a great day
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Hey losing weight in your head isn't so bad, as long as you are emptying out the right stuff!
by PIXIEFLYIN
3.
a decade ago
I see no problem with taking your time in losing the weight you have aquired. They say that it's more likely to stay off if you lose 1-2 per week then shed it like crazy. What is your e-mail address? Mine is [email protected] E-mail me if you like. I am at work friday thru monday so any time during those days. Take care.
by PIXIEFLYIN
2.
a decade ago
Lori, I want you to know that I can't afford to go to hawaii. I am going to take this time that I need to lose all of this weight and save the money to go at the same time. So in a couple of years, I will have saved enough money to go. This way I give myself plenty of time to meet my goal of weight loss and then I get to treat myself with a trip to hawaii for it. This to me is a realistic goal, that's why I'm going to put as much effort into it as I can. I'm really ba at sticking to plans that I have made so this is going to be very hard for me. I'm glad that what I said has maybe pushed you in the right direction. I hope that it works out for you. N
by PIXIEFLYIN
1.
a decade ago
Lori, if there is one thing that I have learned since I have been on this plan, it's that you can't spend your days worrying about all of the what if's! Take one day at a time and live each day like it's your last. You never know if you're going to have a tomorrow so don't put it off! I did all of the weight loss programs jenny craig, weight watchers, LA weight loss. In my opinion WAAAAAY to exspensive! They were always telling me if I really wanted it bad enough then I would find a way to afford it!
:angry2: I'm sorry do they keep track of my finances for me? Do they have to pay my bills and make sure that my children are fed and clothed? I don't think so! So if your goal is for life, that is just as good a goal as any other. What is important is how much it matters to you! Just you! I thank my lucky stars that I have the support I have. I just made this goal for myself yesterday because I really want to go to Hawaii. I talked to my husband about it last night and we shook hands to make it so. I hope that you don't give up on yourself and I hope that you have an awesome support system. Take care. N
by PIXIEFLYIN