NIKKI8's CalorieKing blog
Saturday, Jul 12 2008 - Busy, busy
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My family is in town. 
They got here yesterday. I've was busy getting my house ready for company and I've been busy visiting with them since. It's my dad and my 2 nephews (ages 12 and 13). My boys are ecstatic because they adore their cousins. They are their only cousins as my husband is an only child and I only have a sister.
Anyway, we plan to leave on Tuesday to head to Chicago and as I've mentioned before, I'll then be there until the end of July.
Anniversary recap: Well, Carter got a fever Thursday afternoon so we knew we couldn't go out and do anything. We didn't think we could anyway since we didn't have a sitter, but we considered taking the kids with us to do something.
But Chris brought me flowers and a very nice card.
Okay, I am so glad he did that. Really did mean alot. But when I read the card, which was full of many sentinmental phrases, I was thinking, how can he possibly mean this? And he hand-wrote in there that he is luckiest man on the planet to have me for his wife.
Of course we know that true
but is it 
-y of me to say that I don't believe he means any of this? That I think he is just giving me bunch of words on paper, bringing me flowers because he feels like he has to? Because he should after nine years of marriage?
It reminded me of being in high school and your mom tells you that you're beautiful and you think, 'you have to tell me that, you're my mom.' Anyone relate to that?
I told my sister all this and said, it would be nice if his actions backed up his words. The words mean nothing if he treats me like crap. He could have bought me a diamond and I think I still would feel the same way.
I feel guilty writing this and thinking this way. I honestly do think he loves me and probably does feel the way he expressed it through a card. He really is darn lucky to have me for a wife and on some level I think he knows it.
But I would like to feel love and respect from him--through his actions. Wouldn't that be nice?
Anyway, I am not getting any workouts with the family visiting. I will when I get to Chi-town but for now, it's not going to happen. I'm too busy entertaining and cleaning up after everybody.
We are eating way too much icecream. So the goal for tomorrow is to cut back on that.
I haven't been able to read many blogs. Hope to have a few mins to do that soon. 'Night.
They got here yesterday. I've was busy getting my house ready for company and I've been busy visiting with them since. It's my dad and my 2 nephews (ages 12 and 13). My boys are ecstatic because they adore their cousins. They are their only cousins as my husband is an only child and I only have a sister. Anyway, we plan to leave on Tuesday to head to Chicago and as I've mentioned before, I'll then be there until the end of July.
Anniversary recap: Well, Carter got a fever Thursday afternoon so we knew we couldn't go out and do anything. We didn't think we could anyway since we didn't have a sitter, but we considered taking the kids with us to do something.
But Chris brought me flowers and a very nice card.
Okay, I am so glad he did that. Really did mean alot. But when I read the card, which was full of many sentinmental phrases, I was thinking, how can he possibly mean this? And he hand-wrote in there that he is luckiest man on the planet to have me for his wife.
Of course we know that true
but is it -y of me to say that I don't believe he means any of this? That I think he is just giving me bunch of words on paper, bringing me flowers because he feels like he has to? Because he should after nine years of marriage?It reminded me of being in high school and your mom tells you that you're beautiful and you think, 'you have to tell me that, you're my mom.' Anyone relate to that?
I told my sister all this and said, it would be nice if his actions backed up his words. The words mean nothing if he treats me like crap. He could have bought me a diamond and I think I still would feel the same way.
I feel guilty writing this and thinking this way. I honestly do think he loves me and probably does feel the way he expressed it through a card. He really is darn lucky to have me for a wife and on some level I think he knows it.
But I would like to feel love and respect from him--through his actions. Wouldn't that be nice?
Anyway, I am not getting any workouts with the family visiting. I will when I get to Chi-town but for now, it's not going to happen. I'm too busy entertaining and cleaning up after everybody.
We are eating way too much icecream. So the goal for tomorrow is to cut back on that.
I haven't been able to read many blogs. Hope to have a few mins to do that soon. 'Night.
5 comments so far.
5.
a decade ago
Have a fabulous trip to Chicago ... and I think the flowers and card were a good first step, anyway - does it seem like since then he's been trying harder?
:love: Sometimes men just have weird ways of showing their appreciation. And I think the analogy you used is actually good - because mothers really DO think their daughters are beautiful!! So what if Chris really DOES feel that way, and he's just sh!tty about showing you that most of the time? Anyway, you're right that you're a kick-ass wife and he's EXTREMELY lucky to have you. 
:heart1:
by SFARRANT
4.
a decade ago
Enjoy your company. Glad you got flowers and a nice card!
:)
by MOM22SONZ
3.
a decade ago
OMG! I think that way about my husband all the time. He will give me a mushy card for an occasion and I wlil think, "It would be nice if you showed it rather than bought a preprinted card at the store and signed it." It's hard to tell what he feels anymore. As for workouts, anytime you want to know about one, ask. I probably have it, had it, tried it, did it, know about it, whatever. I could write a book about the many workouts on the market. And I still have not found THE perfect one! I hope you have a great time in Chicago. I'm jealous!
by NIGHTOWLPT
2.
a decade ago
I'm sorry you couldnt go out to celebrate. I am glad he got your flowers and such a nice card. Without knowing too much about him, I do think he does love and you and feels very lucky but has a really hard time expressing it. Although he still should show you with actions. Hang in there with the fam!
by KR1814
1.
a decade ago
Glad to hear you are enjoying the family Nikki! I can totally relate to what you are saying. My parents have a really stressed out marriage but my father always buys my mother the most beautiful sentimental cards. She says he means it and that everything that happens in between is just "noise" -- the problem is, woman have steel traps for minds and may (act like) we forgive, but we never forget. But I'm with you -- actions clearly speak louder than words!
by NMA5632