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Thursday, Dec 18 2008 - memorial service tomorrow...
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<sigh>.
Breathing in, breathing out, late night thoughts as we all gather our strength for tomorrow's memorial service.
It was middle sister's wish to be cremated, that part is done. Her remains await us at the funeral home. I want to say something at her service. At first I didn't think I was strong enough. But I've prayed, read the Word, talked with family and friends, and (my geeky favorite) done some internet research. The purpose of our service is to help us remember, honor, and celebrate the life of middle sister. Plus help each other to know middle sister and her life and work better. All I need do is welcome people, let them know where the bathrooms are and the register book, share a few memories of my own, and listen with big ears and an open heart.
It will be a chance for me to learn things about middle sister I simply could not have known because of the physical distance that constrained our relationship. I want to leave the service tomorrow "wow-ed" by how much new I learn about middle sister, and to be covered in a "fabric of grief" that somehow offers the comfort of memory. I don't even know if I really know what that means. But "fabric of grief" gives me a picture that I like, so I'll go with it tonight.
Weather may work against us. Lots of snow forecast. My hubby and I will drive tomorrow (hopefully before snows) to gather the daddy-o to the service. He's not feeling strong enough to drive the full distance by himself.
You know, we are still a family filled with ghosts, baggage, skeletons in the closet, bad feelings. I hope we can all be on our best behavior tomorrow as we remember that we are present for middle sister, and not bring our own axes to grind.
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For me: I walked today. I breathed deeply and meditated and talked to God. I ate balanced if not perfectly properly. I ate until satisfied and not until stuffed.
* * *
If you've read this far: thanks for visiting. If you're wanting a small piece of wisdom, I borrow from Dear Abby: forgive someone whose intentions were good but whose results were poor.
Peace be with you, -Otter
Breathing in, breathing out, late night thoughts as we all gather our strength for tomorrow's memorial service.
It was middle sister's wish to be cremated, that part is done. Her remains await us at the funeral home. I want to say something at her service. At first I didn't think I was strong enough. But I've prayed, read the Word, talked with family and friends, and (my geeky favorite) done some internet research. The purpose of our service is to help us remember, honor, and celebrate the life of middle sister. Plus help each other to know middle sister and her life and work better. All I need do is welcome people, let them know where the bathrooms are and the register book, share a few memories of my own, and listen with big ears and an open heart.
It will be a chance for me to learn things about middle sister I simply could not have known because of the physical distance that constrained our relationship. I want to leave the service tomorrow "wow-ed" by how much new I learn about middle sister, and to be covered in a "fabric of grief" that somehow offers the comfort of memory. I don't even know if I really know what that means. But "fabric of grief" gives me a picture that I like, so I'll go with it tonight.
Weather may work against us. Lots of snow forecast. My hubby and I will drive tomorrow (hopefully before snows) to gather the daddy-o to the service. He's not feeling strong enough to drive the full distance by himself.
You know, we are still a family filled with ghosts, baggage, skeletons in the closet, bad feelings. I hope we can all be on our best behavior tomorrow as we remember that we are present for middle sister, and not bring our own axes to grind.
* * *
For me: I walked today. I breathed deeply and meditated and talked to God. I ate balanced if not perfectly properly. I ate until satisfied and not until stuffed.
* * *
If you've read this far: thanks for visiting. If you're wanting a small piece of wisdom, I borrow from Dear Abby: forgive someone whose intentions were good but whose results were poor.
Peace be with you, -Otter
2 comments so far.
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a decade ago
Whatever you say at the service will be perfect and appreciated by all. Sending you good thoughts....
by MARJORIEO
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a decade ago
by JUSTPATTI