ROCKMOM2's CalorieKing blog
Monday, Dec 1 2008 - Teenage girl...bad choices
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Just a quick update on my sweet girl child. 16 years old and making some poor choices, but she really is a good girl, just going to try things for herself.
Last night I forgot to turn off her cell phone at 10:00 PM (this was to be her punishment for being on the cell phone for several days after midnight on school nights). When I stood outside her door last night at 11:15 I heard her on the phone. Told her I would be turning it off. She understood.
This morning I got her up for school in plenty of time, but she did not get to school until almost 9:50...school starts at 8:20. Of course she was tardy and got a D-Hall for tomorrow. She had D-Hall today for the tardy the day before school got out.
Her 7th period teacher called me as soon as school was out (this is the last class of the day). She did not go to class, skipped 7th period. Her teacher had seen her earlier in the day and other kids in class told her Audrey was in school today. I went straight to school and talked to the Vice Principal in charge of the sophomores he said I could check in D-Hall, she had been there but was supposed to be in math getting help. I went to her math class and found her there. I simply walked in the door, it was just Audrey and the teacher and said I understand you skipped 7th period we will discuss it after you finish this D-Hall.
Called hubby when I got in the car (had over an hour to wait until D-Hall was over). He and I agreed she would have to have a stiff punishment. So, this is what we have set tonight with much discussion from the girl child:
Grounded for 1 week this includes no cell phone, no TV, no Videos, no time with friends, and worst of all not talking on the house phone (we still have one connected to the wall--when she is grounded, I hide the portable house phones so she has to stand in the kitchen and we can hear her conversation) this time she is also not allowed to do this and is very upset because the boyfriend is supposed to call tonight. Hubby and I agreed she could earn 10 minutes each night starting tomorrow if she gets to school on time LOL!--we will see how badly she want to speak to the boyfriend, if it is worth getting to school on time.
Oh, and she was soooo embarrassed that I went into the D-Hall classroom and asked if Audrey had been there, I said I am looking for her to be sure she came to D-Hall because she skipped her last class. She said she wondered why everyone was laughing at her in D-Hall when she went back after finishing her math tutorial. She was almost in tears she was so embarrassed. I told her I would do the same thing if it happened again and that if she skipped another class I would go to school with her the next day and go to all her classes and sit with her.
She is actually handling the punishment rather well. We will see how the week goes.
-----Now for my weight:
I was back to 159.0 this morning! YEAH! I am ready for the challenge of December. Hubby wanted a cake tonight after a healthy meal go figure, so I made it the good old calorie way without using the diet coke and cake mix even frosted it instead of fat free cool whip. I didnt eat any, I did lick the spoon from the icing and from the cake mix not sure I will log those calories.
I still have over 200 calories left and it is 8:30...I think I will have my favorite Swiss Miss Sensible Sweets Hot Cocoa with Soy Milk yummmmmm!
Night all, I need to get to bed early tonight I need my beauty/weight loss 7-8 hours!
Last night I forgot to turn off her cell phone at 10:00 PM (this was to be her punishment for being on the cell phone for several days after midnight on school nights). When I stood outside her door last night at 11:15 I heard her on the phone. Told her I would be turning it off. She understood.
This morning I got her up for school in plenty of time, but she did not get to school until almost 9:50...school starts at 8:20. Of course she was tardy and got a D-Hall for tomorrow. She had D-Hall today for the tardy the day before school got out.
Her 7th period teacher called me as soon as school was out (this is the last class of the day). She did not go to class, skipped 7th period. Her teacher had seen her earlier in the day and other kids in class told her Audrey was in school today. I went straight to school and talked to the Vice Principal in charge of the sophomores he said I could check in D-Hall, she had been there but was supposed to be in math getting help. I went to her math class and found her there. I simply walked in the door, it was just Audrey and the teacher and said I understand you skipped 7th period we will discuss it after you finish this D-Hall.
Called hubby when I got in the car (had over an hour to wait until D-Hall was over). He and I agreed she would have to have a stiff punishment. So, this is what we have set tonight with much discussion from the girl child:
Grounded for 1 week this includes no cell phone, no TV, no Videos, no time with friends, and worst of all not talking on the house phone (we still have one connected to the wall--when she is grounded, I hide the portable house phones so she has to stand in the kitchen and we can hear her conversation) this time she is also not allowed to do this and is very upset because the boyfriend is supposed to call tonight. Hubby and I agreed she could earn 10 minutes each night starting tomorrow if she gets to school on time LOL!--we will see how badly she want to speak to the boyfriend, if it is worth getting to school on time.
Oh, and she was soooo embarrassed that I went into the D-Hall classroom and asked if Audrey had been there, I said I am looking for her to be sure she came to D-Hall because she skipped her last class. She said she wondered why everyone was laughing at her in D-Hall when she went back after finishing her math tutorial. She was almost in tears she was so embarrassed. I told her I would do the same thing if it happened again and that if she skipped another class I would go to school with her the next day and go to all her classes and sit with her.
She is actually handling the punishment rather well. We will see how the week goes.
-----Now for my weight:
I was back to 159.0 this morning! YEAH! I am ready for the challenge of December. Hubby wanted a cake tonight after a healthy meal go figure, so I made it the good old calorie way without using the diet coke and cake mix even frosted it instead of fat free cool whip. I didnt eat any, I did lick the spoon from the icing and from the cake mix not sure I will log those calories.
I still have over 200 calories left and it is 8:30...I think I will have my favorite Swiss Miss Sensible Sweets Hot Cocoa with Soy Milk yummmmmm!
Night all, I need to get to bed early tonight I need my beauty/weight loss 7-8 hours!
15 comments so far.
15.
a decade ago
About your comment in the runners forum, and above, about restraining yourself around your daughter. I can only imagine that it is hard for you to NOT be excited about the things you are learning and realizing that you can do! Every day when I discover I can do or wear something now that I couldn't in the past, it just amazes me and I want to shout to the world about my happiness and little successes! That is when WE need to remember that is what CK is for! I mean, I can talk about it freely here in my world, but really, who wants to hear it
:laugh5: . My friends and hubby look at me like, Yeah, you said that already! 
:laugh5: I KNOW on CK that EVERY accomplishment is a great thing!!! I know hubby is proud of me, but my accomplishments mean something different to the people here that are struggling for the same things! He does get the whole 4mph thing on the treadmill cause he watched me huff and puff and chug away at 2.5mph 
:laugh5:
:laugh5: . Just remember, CK is always here to cheer WITH and FOR you!!! 
:kiss:
by JTAPP9
14.
a decade ago
Gotta love teenagers!! Frustrating times, I know.... but at least yours didn't have a baby at 16 like mine did!
:cross2: When you are an embarrassing parent you know you are doing a good job 
:laugh5: - oh, and thank you for the compliments on my new grandbaby 
:smile1: (She is baby #2 for that daughter of mine! At least she's 20 now!)
by WOLFENA
13.
a decade ago
Hey sweetness! Thanks for being such a huge support. Grrrreeeaatttt job with your daughter! I just don't get teenagers these days...I was so scared of upsetting my parents...I just behaved except when I got my ears pierced! lol
:heart1:
Soy Milk Hot Cocoa...yum....I have to check that out because I'm lactose intolerant. Also, how can you make a cake for your husband and not want to EAT IT! ARGH...what torture...you are REMARKABLE! You have made an amazing recovery from Thanksgiving. Maybe I should have eaten MORE!!!!!! lol That's okay I'm adding some of those calories in now...ooops
Love you girl!
Fran
by ICANDOIT7
12.
a decade ago
Hey Vicki -- thanks for the blog comments and recommendation. I'll have to look into that book. Good luck w/ the teenager... she sounds like my sister!! See ya in the forums!
by BAISLEYBERT
11.
a decade ago
PS Thanks for your nice blog comments, which weren't rambling at all! Good luck on C25K--that's where I started, too, this summer. Never ran a step before that (except for catching a bus!) and now I am hooked!
by BREADANDROSES
10.
a decade ago
I soooo know why you are called ROCKMOM.... Cuz you ROCK girl!!! You did some Kick Mamma Bootie as I call it here in GA.... Oh our precious children....
by DEBBIEDOES
9.
a decade ago
it's awesome that minor scuffles like that is all you're dealing with when it comes to your daughter-- i think all teenage kids go through that phase. at least she's not sneaking out of the house to party or anything.
:P
i loooooove cocoa made with soymilk. YUM.
by TRIPLEL
8.
a decade ago
You are bringing back memories of high school with my daughters.
:cry2: It's so hard but I think you have an amazing attitude....or maybe you're crying on the inside like I did. 
:help: We didn't have cell phones, but we had cordless phones and my ex used to take the phone and unplug it and put it under our bed. 
:laugh5: One of my daughter's friends mother used to say that they were 'always grounded'. They were a lot. For some reason they had to test every limit. One of the doctors I worked with --who has a daughter just about to enter into the teenage years-- used to like me to tell him some of my "stories". 
:talking: I could laugh about it then. 
:teeth1: There was one night when we ended up in 2 different police stations for my twins - one was at an underage drinking party, and the other was caught with someone else's (of course) marijuana. We were at a Christmas party that night for both phone calls. Just got one issue settled and then returned to the party and got the second phone call. 
:bang: Thank God she doesn't have a twin, Vicki! You are doing an awesome job! 
:love:
:kiss:
by BUN201
7.
a decade ago
I hope I have the wisdom and strength when when the time comes to handle challenges with my daughters as well as you have yours. Thank goodness I have a few more years to get there! This is a great example of loving discipline. And, congrats on being in the 150s!
:thumbu2:
by MAMAMARTINEZ
6.
a decade ago
Hi Vicki,
:thumbu2:
I have soooo been there with the girl child. Mine is now 19 and still not making a lot of great choices. At least going to school is a priority to her now that she's in college. You'll get through.... somehow!
Great job on the WI
by SUNNYM145
5.
a decade ago
Thanks for your comment on my blog-- now for yours. I HEAR YOU! I have 2 teen-age sons and I could write pages and pages of stories just like this one. My 13 year old is the worst of the 2-- he is in trouble at school all of the time. Stay strong-- we can do this. And some day, we pray, they will get some sense about them!!!! I am with you!
by LYNDYO
4.
a decade ago
by JUSTPATTI
3.
a decade ago
Yay for the weight and the good parenting. It's tough, but you're setting good boundaries for her. xo
by BREADANDROSES
2.
a decade ago
I think you handled the Audrey situation very well! I especially like how she can "earn" phone time.
by KIMKOC
1.
a decade ago
Hi Vicki - I think you handled the situation with your daughter very well! I can only imagine how tough it is having a teenage daughter running around. Nice job!
by JBK101