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Tuesday, Dec 23 2008 - Traveling
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Working to tie up all the loose ends before we head from Texas to Arkansas for the Christmas Holiday. 16 yr old daughter is there already; 22 yr old son and I drove her half way on Sunday. It is quiet at our house.
I am really struggling with the fact that she doesn't even text back when I send her a simple, i lv u - text. My heart is breaking. I know she is a teenager and could care less, but as a mother it is the hardest thing I have ever had to do...live each day with a child that it "feels" like doesn't care if I even exist and may wish I didn't. (Any Dr. Laura fans, you know what she says about feelings...they don't really matter...they are not reality...tell that to my heart). Does this sound as pitiful and it feels. Hubby was upset last night cause I a really down about all this, so I have to put back on my HAPPY FACE and continue as if I am the happiest person on earth. Why is it so hard to try to be happy?
Schedule for Christmas:
Christmas Eve...drive to my parents (house I lived in from 10 yrs old till on my own)...in NLR AR
Christmas Eve night...my parents dress and Santa and Mrs. Claus (I will see if I can post a photo...they are so cute...they have done this for about 4 years from the weekend after Thanksgiving until the weekend before Christmas Wed-Sun nights. They hand out candy canes and have an incredible display of lights and a very small Christmas Village complete with whistling train in their garage and is behind a screen...children push a button to start the train.
Christmas Day...Prime Rib cooked on the grill by my Daddy...I really like my mom's butter rich sides as well as the prime rib, so I will probably go for the ham instead....sodium will be awful. My sister and her 2 boys and hubby will come and we will have a small gift exchange. A quiet day really.
Friday after Christmas...we will drive 2 hours south to Norphlet AR to visit hubby's sister...his Dad and wife will be there from TN...his brother will show up on Saturday. We will visit, eat and spend time with his family until we get to return to Texas on Sunday...with all the other crazy people waiting to return the day before work on Monday. We usually have to sit in a parking lot about an hour outside of DFW on a returning holiday weekend.
Not sure I will get here anymore between now and Monday.
Blessings for a joyous love filled Christmas!
Vicki
I am really struggling with the fact that she doesn't even text back when I send her a simple, i lv u - text. My heart is breaking. I know she is a teenager and could care less, but as a mother it is the hardest thing I have ever had to do...live each day with a child that it "feels" like doesn't care if I even exist and may wish I didn't. (Any Dr. Laura fans, you know what she says about feelings...they don't really matter...they are not reality...tell that to my heart). Does this sound as pitiful and it feels. Hubby was upset last night cause I a really down about all this, so I have to put back on my HAPPY FACE and continue as if I am the happiest person on earth. Why is it so hard to try to be happy?
Schedule for Christmas:
Christmas Eve...drive to my parents (house I lived in from 10 yrs old till on my own)...in NLR AR
Christmas Eve night...my parents dress and Santa and Mrs. Claus (I will see if I can post a photo...they are so cute...they have done this for about 4 years from the weekend after Thanksgiving until the weekend before Christmas Wed-Sun nights. They hand out candy canes and have an incredible display of lights and a very small Christmas Village complete with whistling train in their garage and is behind a screen...children push a button to start the train.
Christmas Day...Prime Rib cooked on the grill by my Daddy...I really like my mom's butter rich sides as well as the prime rib, so I will probably go for the ham instead....sodium will be awful. My sister and her 2 boys and hubby will come and we will have a small gift exchange. A quiet day really.
Friday after Christmas...we will drive 2 hours south to Norphlet AR to visit hubby's sister...his Dad and wife will be there from TN...his brother will show up on Saturday. We will visit, eat and spend time with his family until we get to return to Texas on Sunday...with all the other crazy people waiting to return the day before work on Monday. We usually have to sit in a parking lot about an hour outside of DFW on a returning holiday weekend.
Not sure I will get here anymore between now and Monday.
Blessings for a joyous love filled Christmas!
Vicki
12 comments so far.
12.
a decade ago
Vicki - Er...we need some new input here....it's been DAYS since Christmas! lol Happy New Year sugar!!
:love: Fran
by ICANDOIT7
11.
a decade ago
Thanks for your comment sweetie!
:inlove1: Be patient with your daughter and continue as you are. Don't stop texting. Whether she admits it, responds to it or acknowledges it or not. It means something to her. I can tell you, after being very close to my mom and then having issues with my entire family for over a year, there is no one like mom and she will realize that one day babe. When she does you will be right there. I hope you had a wonderful Christmas. 
:kiss:
by MOM22SONZ
10.
a decade ago
Merry Christmas Vicki,
:angel4:
It's hard to believe...but Your daughter and you will be best of friends in due time...she is probably VERY much like You. I have 2 grown daughters that I am very proud of and we are very close now. Believe me....I had the same feelings you are experiencing now....with one of them.... I am glad I lived long enough to see our relationship grow into the kind I wanted for her and I for so long. Be strong....eventually....like tending a flower.....you'll both experience a beautiful realationship that will blossom.
Have a good weekend and safe trip home!
Linda
by LINDA1127OLDUSERNAME
9.
a decade ago
hi vicki! i've been reading your blog and meaning to comment since i too have a 16 year old daughter.....we get along pretty well as long as i am FULFILLING HER EVERY NEED!! i'm more ready to have it out with my 18 yr old son....ugh my kids are 18, 16, 13 and 10....yay, kids can break your heart big time, but i'll tell you this....she DOES love you!
:love:
by JAYNE375
8.
a decade ago
by WOLFENA
7.
a decade ago
Merry Xmas Vicki. I hope you're doing well.
by JBK101
6.
a decade ago
Vicki,
Sometimes I so totally disagree with Dr. Laura.
I think the teen years are so difficult. My daughter and I had some pretty awful times mixed in with the good times. But after she grew up we became very good friends. She's 35 now and she is the one having the difficult time with her 10 year old. Sometimes you think you'll never get past these moments but you will. I do understand your feelings--I've wept quite a few tears myself.
I'll bet your daughter loves you a lot. She just may not think about saying it or knowing that it is important to you to hear it.
Have a great Christmas. Your parents sound like they are a lot of fun.
by MUSICALMARGARET
5.
a decade ago
by JTAPP9
4.
a decade ago
I think what I was trying to say was, it's not you, it's her, struggling to figure herself out!
:love:
by BREADANDROSES
3.
a decade ago
I know you're working not to take things personally; she gets the text message and knows you love her, which is important, and we know she loves you, too, in her teen agst way. I'm not a fan of Dr Laura--I think your feelings matter! But you're keeping your eye on the bigger picture of her struggles. Hang in there! I am eager to see Santa and Mrs pics! And maybe you should give yourself Christmas off--that prime rib sounds like a once-a-year indulgence! Travel safely and try to enjoy the holidays!
by BREADANDROSES
2.
a decade ago
I hope you have a wonderful holiday, Vicki. Your parents sound adorable---my grandsons would be thrilled since they both LOVE trains. I understand how you heart aches for your daughter ... things will change. Just trust in God and in the power of love. Your feelings don't sound pitiful...you're being honest and that's a good thing, trust me, I've learned from personal past experience.
by BUN201
1.
a decade ago
Hi Vicki,
Have a wonderful holiday with your family. Thank you for your support today. It really was so very helpful.
Thanks and Merry Christmas
Birdy
by BIRDY