What a lucky kid you have! The most loving thing you can do for her is set limits and boundaries and enforce them. It takes a lot of courage. I desperately wish that my mother had done so. I could have avoided a lot of painful mistakes (not the kind you learn from either, just the kind that make life stink!). I know it must be hard for both of you, but you will come through this difficult time closer and more appreciative of each other. :heart2:

by MAMAMARTINEZ

Does she read your blog with your permission? I have one of my daughter's here on CK and she could very easily read my blog but she doesn't--and I don't read hers--by mutual agreement. I need a place to vent, and so does she. Sometimes she will see a photo (of her boys) and will comment, but that's about it. You're doing an awesome job. She really does not hate you --- that may be part of the unconscious or not "manipulation" technique to get her way. You are nothing but a very caring and loving person. You can delete this if you don't want her to see it, Vicki. :love: :kiss:

by BUN201

I would read it first. A lot of profanity and talk about drug abuse and alcohol, who was sleeping with who and just an adult outlook on some things you may not want her reading. :kiss:

by MOM22SONZ

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by JTAPP9

:hi: Oh how I remember the I hate you Mom line! You are doing what is right for your daughter, whether she believes it or not. Don't give up, just keep on enforcing those rules. She will thank you one of these days. I agree we both need to get to bed earlier, but I seriously don't see that happening with me any time soon. :love: :kiss:

by JUSTPATTI

I soooo hate this for you sweet Vicki and you.... ARE adorable. Your sacrifice of Love is evident and you will be rewarded, NOTHING you are walking through is going unseen.... Your daughter is gift chosen from heaven to be in your arms.... YOU were created to be her mom..... She will see that one day and DEEP down when all is dark and she is along..... She sees it.... This comes from someone that at one time was in those dark places myself.... Blessings dear friend

by DEBBIEDOES

Vicky: as someone with 3 troubled teen/20-somethings I would advise you to not to take this personally. Disliking your mother is part of being that age, and it will pass. Hang in there! :love:

by BREADANDROSES

I don't have kids myself, but we had some foster kids way back. Sometimes a bit of tough love is needed. Only a few years, and this period will be forgotten.

by MIRIAM

Vicki - You're doing the right thing....she may not realize it now but down the road she'll thank you. AND if she reads this blog listen to your mother. She is not the enemy.

by JBK101

To Vicki's Daughter: Stop driving you mother crazy!! She loves you and wants the best for you but if you don't learn to behave, you're going to grow up to be one miserable adult! Additionally, I hope you have someone you can talk to who can hear how you feel about things because I am thinking that you are bothered by something and this thing is making you continue to rebel. Life will get better, you'll get older and you'll grow up and you'll appreciate all that your mom is doing for you now!

To Vicki - She doesn't hate you. She is hurting. I'm not sure why and I don't know what happened but it is impossible for her to hate you. She's a teenager and she is resisting her own maturation process but children really know that parents love them by the discipline. You will both get through this. I love and admire you Vicki! Life is hard sometimes and you truly are a RockMom! xox

by ICANDOIT7