I don't get people, some people are so miserable they invent negative things about you to make themselves feel better..I guess.

I have never been a materialistic person, I could honestly be in a shack as long as it's clean, I have my family and we are healthy! I was torn down, accused of changing since my weight loss, of being stuck up and materialistic. I am so NOT that person, I don't wear designer labels (with the exception of my prescription Coach sunglasses), I drive an 8 yr old 4 door Honda Civic, I volunteer for charities, I would probably give you the last dollar out of my wallet and always willing to help anyone who needs it. I feel so torn down by this person, a "supposed" friend.

Okay, so I lost 80 lbs in the past year and had to buy some new clothes but I am conservative, my cleavage isn't hanging out, my pants are still loose (even my skinny jeans are NOT skin tight). I may be dressing better "because I have more options now" I wear a few Alex and Ani bangles from time to time that were gifts and have special meaning, maybe an occasional necklace or earrings. I don't wear makeup unless I'm going out with my husband and I recently started painting my nails because they have been growing like weeds since I started eating better and are stronger...I do them myself. I don't preach about weight loss or healthy eating, if I'm asked what I do I say but do not give unsolicited advice.

I don't get it, I'm the same person, just healthier, more confident and in less pain so I'm happier too. I have a beautiful grand baby and a beautiful family that I love and adore that bring me so much joy. But my life is far from perfect! Everyone deserves to be happy! It's the little things in life, moving with little pain, the fact that I still have a job while others in my area are loosing theirs, I have health benefits, my family, my true friends, a roof over my head and food on the table....that's not materialistic that honest thankful for my many blessings.

Any weight loss and health I have today didn't come easy, I had to fight for it, earn it, own my shortcomings to overcome them. I was so hurt by this person, seriously...you have to try to attack me and tear me down to feel better about yourself? Why? I have never done that to anyone, I try to be positive and while I'm not perfect and have bad days just like anyone else, I do not and have not viciously attacked anyone's character or tried to tear them down! It is so very juvenile, so "high school - mean girls!"

I don't understand this behavior but for anyone who does behave like this... SHAME ON YOU! I have a message for you and all of us...a quote that hit home to this experience and yes I forwarded it to the "friend" that hurt me and let them know how disappointed and hurt I was by their behavior.


"It is time to stop looking outside yourself for the answers to why you haven’t created the life and results you want, for it is you who creates the quality of the life you lead and the results you produce. You--no one else! To achieve major success in life--to achieve those things that are most important to you--you must assume 100% responsibility for your life. Nothing less will do." ~~~ Jack Canfield

We are all responsible for our own happiness and as Melissa D'Aribian says "Happiness is an inside job!"

Chew on that!