OK, as a nurse I see all kinds of "reality checks". Hell, I am usually the one the families are thanking for "saving" their lazy/stupid/drunk/depressed asses when it comes time to "pay the piper" for all your bad choices... But, there are LOTS of people out there who are living life everyday disconnected form reality who don't necessarily wind up in the ED. Maybe they live beyond their means telling themselves that they DESERVE it. Maybe they are having 3 drinks every night, telling themselves they DESERVE it. Maybe they are eating an ice cream sundae telling themselves they DESERVE it. See the pattern? We all have our "job" to do while on this planet, ya know, lessons we need to learn or to help others with. BUT, the whole idea of not having to take care of yourself as well as live your life is a cop-out. Plain and simple. I looked at myself this morning (after a very long night at work last night) like a one of the many teenagers who has failed to see the relationship between the choices you make everyday and your current situation. How could I be so blind?!! I see it everyday. People doing the stuff that they KNOW they shouldn't do/eat/spend/smoke/avoid. The list is endless, and unless you are a nun in a cloister or a monk in a monastery YOU are probably just as guilty as the rest of us (me included of course!) SO today is a new day. I AM going to do what I know I need to do EVERYDAY (some days better than others) so that I can at least not be such a hypocrite when I am dealing with the next person who "just can't believe this has happened" even though every other person I work with is thinking REALLY??!! cause we can see a straight line to the reality you are experiencing, and I/m sure it probably started with the thought of "I deserve to be able to _______ ." Any-who, Today the enabling stops for ME. My reality is that I am a super busy mom of two that works and has multiple volunteer duties at 2 school as well as a house to run, but the first thing on my list EVERYDAY has GOT to be me. Thats got to be my new reality, because in the end I would rather think about what a great life I lived and not think how I wish I would have taken better care of my self or made better choices. I've seen those people before they go to surgery or die. It's a frightened, haunted look. Better to make good choices everyday in REAL time. That is after all, realty.