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Thursday, Jul 19 2007 - too many want to be too thin
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i can't take it anymore
and i am sorry if this
sounds harsh
but i absolutely have
no sympathy
for someone trying to lose
15 pounds to be thinner
than they already are
i see a thread
in a forum
the title sounds interesting
and then bam
there it is
someone talking about
losing 15 pounds
and they don't need to
no way, no how
they absolutely don't
and it kills me
it really does
if you want to eat better
that's a good thing
if you want to tone your body
that's a good thing too
but if you want to obsess
about getting to a weight
that is probably not meant
for you
your height
your body type
please warn me
so i don't read
your thread
and feel my blood boil
i know, i know
i sound so selfish
and i am sorry
if i am hurting
anyone's feelings
but i really believe
that some people
who post on here
need help
that they wont
find here
because their
body images
are so far from reality
it scares me
they want the weight
to pour off of them
but it can't
because their bodies
are probably holding on
to every single calorie
afraid to let go
because they work out
too much
and they eat too little
but you cant tell them that
because they would never
believe you anyway
i know it is perspective
and i know i should be kinder
but i can't, i just can't
knowing how i have struggled
with a weight issue,
a serious weight issue
almost my entire life
makes it that much more
difficult
for me
to ever comprehend
the insanity
i read about losing 15 pounds
to be thinner
not to be healthier
but just to be thinner
than they already are
i can't encourage them
to keep trying
i can't tell them to hang on
i can't say don't worry
you'll lose the weight
i can't accept that
they know their body best
and they probably do need
to lose the 15 pounds
because those are lies
all of them.
What they need to hear is
they are beautiful
just the way they are
wear a size 8?
what is wrong with that?
make better food choices
do that,
it's the smart thing to do
to live a healthy life
want to tone,
work out
but don't expect to lose weight
because they just don't need to
they really don't
and once they accept that
they will be happy
and i will be too
because i won't have
to read those
posts anymore
and feel
discouraged
because i wish
i only had 15 pounds
to lose,
really lose
i am not bitter, i just ate some lemons
and i am sorry if this
sounds harsh
but i absolutely have
no sympathy
for someone trying to lose
15 pounds to be thinner
than they already are
i see a thread
in a forum
the title sounds interesting
and then bam
there it is
someone talking about
losing 15 pounds
and they don't need to
no way, no how
they absolutely don't
and it kills me
it really does
if you want to eat better
that's a good thing
if you want to tone your body
that's a good thing too
but if you want to obsess
about getting to a weight
that is probably not meant
for you
your height
your body type
please warn me
so i don't read
your thread
and feel my blood boil
i know, i know
i sound so selfish
and i am sorry
if i am hurting
anyone's feelings
but i really believe
that some people
who post on here
need help
that they wont
find here
because their
body images
are so far from reality
it scares me
they want the weight
to pour off of them
but it can't
because their bodies
are probably holding on
to every single calorie
afraid to let go
because they work out
too much
and they eat too little
but you cant tell them that
because they would never
believe you anyway
i know it is perspective
and i know i should be kinder
but i can't, i just can't
knowing how i have struggled
with a weight issue,
a serious weight issue
almost my entire life
makes it that much more
difficult
for me
to ever comprehend
the insanity
i read about losing 15 pounds
to be thinner
not to be healthier
but just to be thinner
than they already are
i can't encourage them
to keep trying
i can't tell them to hang on
i can't say don't worry
you'll lose the weight
i can't accept that
they know their body best
and they probably do need
to lose the 15 pounds
because those are lies
all of them.
What they need to hear is
they are beautiful
just the way they are
wear a size 8?
what is wrong with that?
make better food choices
do that,
it's the smart thing to do
to live a healthy life
want to tone,
work out
but don't expect to lose weight
because they just don't need to
they really don't
and once they accept that
they will be happy
and i will be too
because i won't have
to read those
posts anymore
and feel
discouraged
because i wish
i only had 15 pounds
to lose,
really lose
i am not bitter, i just ate some lemons
12 comments so far.
12.
a decade ago
by LUCKYDUCK2
11.
a decade ago
Actually I hardly spend any time over at SP at all... it doesn't feel very friendly to me as person who chose to stay here. The few times I've been there I found it overwhelmingly negative & mostly chose not to participate. I've just been workin' a lot this week & haven't had a chance to post here this week much either!
:wink2:
by WOLFENA
10.
a decade ago
By the way,your marinara sauce recipes sounds delicious.
by JUSTPATTI
9.
a decade ago
Grace,
;)
I do understand what you are saying. I do feel like that when I think about the length of time it will take to be where they are! Some people need others to validate them. They need to be told they look good. Don't we all want that? When one has 100 pounds to lose, it does seem foolish to see someone complain about a measly 15 pounds, BUT... When I think if only I had caught myself at 10 or 15 pounds and did not allow myself to gain so much weight, perhaps they are right? I am not talking about an anorexic, but those that know that even that added 15 pounds is causing them discomfort. They may look perfect to you, but they may be right about that 15 pounds for their body. Maybe their belly is hanging over their panties or their butt is larger or their chest is expanding or their normal clothing is very very tight. Maybe they can't button their pants anymore? They struggle too. They just may be more in tuned with their bodies. We need to learn that lesson as well as learning how to be healthier and losing weight.
by SHARMON
8.
a decade ago
There's a commercial on the radio around here for a Doctor that does that lipo-dissolve.... the speaker is a woman who claims she went from a size 8 to a size 4 thanks to this procedure, and although she's almost 40 years old she can for the first time in her life wear a bikini. I cringe every time I hear it!!!
by WOLFENA
7.
a decade ago
Hi Grace!
:wave1: I do not support anorexia either!!! I think some people have an irrational fear of gaining because they've been heavy and uncomfortable at some time in their lives & they don't want to go back there. You're right though - at that point it's a body image and perhaps self esteem problem, not a weight problem. I like your input. Maybe CK can consider an addition to their overall program that supports people with those issues. Interesting.... I don't think I've seen that on any calorie type websites I've ever visited. Seems like there's a need.... 
:)
by LESLIEC
6.
a decade ago
step gently away from the forums and let your blood cool down. Cheers, Judy
by PEANUT
5.
a decade ago
I agree 100% Grace. It's sick....it really is. I just go on and don't comment at all. There's a couple of women at the gym I go to that have some serious issues. One girl is completely skin and bone; not an ounce of adipose anywhere on her. The other had her membership terminated by the gym owner. She had a stress fracture and even though her doctor told her not to exercise, she did, and kept coming back. I think the owner was afraid of being responsible in some way for her demise. They need psychiatric help, not a gym membership, or a CK membership, for that matter. BTW, I love your idea of that poem for a book for your parents anniversary - what a wonderful gift that will be, and for the kids as well.
:)
by BUN201
4.
a decade ago
Grace thanks so much for your comments on my blog--it made me feel a whole lot better. Have a good evening
:)
by TEXSKH05
3.
a decade ago
Ditto what Rona said
:)
by TEXSKH05
2.
a decade ago
Grace,
So do you think that some people are on "Fishing Expeditions"? They are looking for the words "you are perfect". "You shouldn't lose any weight." "Look at your BMI it is 3".
They need that, because even though they are slim their self-esteem is very low. Could it be the many images which show "society skeletons" as the goal in life?
Good prose.
Rona
by RSW
1.
a decade ago
Ditto
:)
by DAWNNSCOTT