just a quick blog to say hi! my parents anniversary dinner is sat. evening and since i am doing a lot of the cooking, i will be pretty busy for the next few days. i have shopping and errands to run and well you know how that goes.

i am feeling pretty confident about weight loss for this week. i am having a good week and hope i can stay focused while preparing all the food over the next few days. i am making a lot of healthy dishes so i am not worried about eating the wrong things. i am more worried about not eating regularly as i get side tracked by everything else. it's amazing how quickly we let everything get in the way of taking care of #1. i think it happens more with women because we need to take care of people --other people that is.

i have come to the conclusion that losing weight takes a bit of selfishness in order to sustain a program and then maintain a weight loss. you have to put yourself before everything and everyone else in order to prepare healthy food choices and work out regularly. i don't think i have failed diets before because i didn't want to lose weight. i failed before, because i let everyone else's priorities become my priorities. i gave everyone else my time and had none left for me. selfish people make sure they have time to do what they need to do for themselves. take my sister as an example. she works out 5 to 6 days a week for at least an hour each day. she has been doing this for as long as i can remember. no matter what is going on in her life or in her kids' lives she makes this time for herself. there isn't any sacrificing when it comes to the time she needs to work out. is she a bad person? no, absolutely not. is she a bad mother? no, her kids adore her and vice versa. but has she missed a soccer game or two? yes, she has. not because she doesn't support her kids and whatever they are involved with, but because she still makes herself a priority no matter what.

and if we don't have kids to take care of, we let something or someone else take our time from us. it is who some of us are, no matter what. well that is changing for me now. i am doing things for me and me first. my husband will eat what i eat and if he doesn't like it he can get his meals somewhere else. it hasn’t come to that because he likes what i prepare, but if he didn't...well... what i still haven't mastered is always finding the time to work out. i have gotten to the point that i miss it when i don't do it, but i still haven't figured out how to always do the work out and then do everything else. perhaps it's time management more than taking care of other people. i really think it's a little of both. finding a solution to this is now a priority in my life. when i figure it out, i'll let you know..

so, am i proposing we all get a little selfish? yes, i am!!! but not in a way that hurts other people. but just enough to put ourselves up front at least 80% of the time. Perhaps that kind of selfishness is the most unselfish thing we can do for the people who love us! i think if we all do that, we will succeed...